16 September 2005

The big question...

As i lay sleeping mostly everynight...i lay awake thinking and starngely yesterday i was thinking about things i wanted the person i wud spend the rest of my life with to have..as in the qualties...i know all girls or women think about this topic even though some say they just not intrested but it is important to them....some things came up in my mind...which i wanted to share...


1)I need someone who will be understanding
I'm a very veryyyy different person, i know most people say that about themselves bu with me its really different...im very emotional and sooo damn moody..i hate myself at times....

2)I want someone who is willing to be open and honest (whats the point of having a heart if ur not using it)
Most people want this quality but sadly alot of people dont relise that they just arent beeing told the truth...i know people lie because i do it myself...but at least i need someone to try be as honest with me as possible...with out that i dont think i can build a good foundation for a good family


3)I need someone who trusts me
I'm going to be honest....its hard to trust someone with your whole soul but face it things do go wrong BUT...(heres the big but)..u need someone to trust u ...well at least trust u so u can tell the person that something did go wrong...i try my best to be honest and not keep things away from people ...which i find important..

4)Personallty is very important to me
Looks yeah important but not as much as who the person is...i need to be able to comunicate with the person and not feel like they are not intelligent enough to just LISTEN....all i can say is if u listen to me (without trying to give me adivise) then im fine with it....and i hate beign ignored!

5) Caring person
I know i know....not that original but hey everyone needs someone who will give them enough attention! eh!..:)


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6) BE resposible
I don't believe that men should not ask the women for help for financial reason i, however, think the woman can insist in helping..otehrwise GURL ull be having a hard life paying his bills;)....

7) Be easy to talk to
I hate, i repeat HATE men who show off..it sickins me...dont like men who think they r HOT or think too much of themseleves and spends as much time as u do getting chnaged or chnaging his hair style every few days....dude chill a good hair cut can do alot.....sometimes he can try but not constintly..oh about this point i dont want him to blab about himself...so unattraive... the biggest turn off ive had is having a guy talk more than u do...ewww just makes me hurl...plus makes me wanna kill myself....

8) A bossy 2 shoes
DUDE back off u do what u want i do what i want ..but there r limits..and i think i can make clear what i mean about those....

9)HIS FAMILY
Have u heard..when u marry the guy ur marrying his family???...well thats 100% true...dont know this is the only thing i dont think i have control over...gurls if the guys mother is mean to u from the first day...run run as fasttt as u can cuz she will get u if she can;)....advice NO staying with the man after marrige with his family a BIG NO NO......try keep low with the family...;) better safe than sorry

10)Sensitvity
Has to feel u not just see how u look but see whats going on....this prob is a hard to get this is why i left it till last...well i wasnt planning this stuff but this is how it got it...i can make this list longer...maybe i will later;)....


So as u can see ive got expectations....but hey no harm in dreaming:P.....These are some of the reasons why im putting off marriage in my mind..As most people know me they say yeah she wanst to get married...but im the MOST one scared of it....from reasons such as dont want to fali at it and get depressed ..dont wanna feel like things r the way they are but in reality they r not....the most thing i fear is....the person changes...when this happens everything chnages and thats not always good (specially when u dont plan it:P)...u know ive learnt one thing in this life though....people dont actuly chnage..they r the way they are but u dont seem to notice it...cuz sometimes i blank out the bad points about someone cuz u think thats it they luv me they cant do that to me! but the fact is....they luved u thats why they might do that to u...so a lil adivice be safe;)



7 comments:

A.J.Q said...

Nice... good 10 points...

but its fun to change hair styles :P

sweetd said...

hehehe yeah i know...thanx cutie

A.J.Q said...

ur welcome :)

snookie said...

wow.. very intelligent..
but u forgot one thing..
maturity.. are u absolutely sure he as well as you will be ok in the future? are u old enough to be committed and be taking care of urself and ur spouse? can u truley tell urself u wont EVER need ur parents help EVER in ANY situation? thats how i will know when im ready.. when i have a job with a future, a steady dependable and respectable paycheck, and the only thing im missing is a place of my own and a man to share that place with, THATS when i know im fully psychologically mature and am ready to handle a comitment, a house, and a man of my own for the rest of my life....
o salamatkom

sweetd said...

yeah i wont get married till i have my own job ...the most important thihng to me is my eductaion this is why i always study hard and tr my best....:)...goodluck with ya place..

Baroque said...

u're moody too! thank god! i thought i was the moodiest person ever.. it's nice to know there are others.. ;) i liked your list.. but u know what? marriage is a commitment.. i think you should be in a good relationship first, and then secure the guy (if he's good) for marriage..

don't rush things! Get to know him first! Get to know him really really good.. ;)

sweetd said...

hehe yeah im super moody!!! hehe:) its great to hear someone else is like me!:) i know i cudnt get married to somoene i didnt know it wud be super scarey!